Do you ever hear yourself saying “she should..”, “he ought to..”, “they need to..” when observing or interacting with others? Ah the game of judgment. We all play it. But have you ever considered that what we see is filtered. We all create “should”, ought to” and “need to” based on our own limited experience, understandings and beliefs. As a result we sometimes miss opportunities, answers, and insights. So the next time the desire consumes you to tell someone how they should, ought or need to be consider these ways to reply.

1. “it is what it is”
2. “bless his/her heart”
3. “that’s interesting”
4. “it is as it should be”
5. “so be it”
6. “all is well”
7. “and so it is”

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